Marriage - Traditional thinkers Vs Modern thinkers

Hi All
 Yes!!!!!   Finally weekend has arrived  i am so excited about it :-) it is that time where my family and friends catch up with each other to distress themselves from tensions of the outside world and to make the minds clear and heart happy with lots of love which they get when they meet up with some old family member or when they meet an old school or college friend  whom they haven't met for years  because of their professional and personal commitments

Personal Commitment se yaad aaya ki " what do you  think of marriage  as "?   i want to know  from you people . For me its  a sacred thing but most of the young people feel it is an additional responsibility which will snatch away the independence which they are enjoying or the fear of something which youth aren't  vocal about.............

 This because  today's  generation   are

1.  Highly educated , 
2. Quickly get placement in some big companies  or some get self employed , 
3. Get good pay and
4. Changes in lifestyles 
5. Expectations

But few days ago i had got a chance to meet a very nice couple from old generation of our parents or grandparents . i and my friends were discussing most interesting topic of marriage but at one point we all got bored and were returning to our place .This sweet couple caught hold of us and starting telling us  about the same things which we got bored of like accept things as it is , don't expect  too much,adjust in situations wherever necessary but i myself and friend thought for while and asked the couple ............ OK  all your points said are correct  and we will try to  put in practice  but for now us  why so many divorces are happening ? and why people are complaining that "we aren't getting bridegrooms and brides  for our sons  and daughters  " ? AND WHY ARE THE PEOPLE WHO GOT EVERYTHING   ie (brides,bridegroom and grandchildren) ARE COMPLAINING .Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm..................... now tell us why?


Now the couple saw us with  a lot of inquisition   and appreciated us  for asking such  good  questions and they said even in today time its rare to see you people talking face to face with people like us  .....:-) who are not that  tech savvy

EVENTUALLY our ego got boosted and then they said by  taking a big pause  THE ANSWER TO YOUR FIRST QUESTION   WHY  SO MANY DIVORCES ARE HAPPENING ?  BECAUSE OF

• LACK OF UNDERSTANDING  EACH OTHER THAT MEANS( now- a-days people are more selfish and selfcentred ki they feel mai aur mera only should be good)
• LACK OF TOLERANCE AND PATIENCE AMONG YOUTH 
• LACK OF RESPECT FOR OTHERS  
• EGO OF HAVING ACHIEVED THINGS ,SUCCESS AND FAME

NOW ANSWER TO YOUR OTHER TWO QUESTIONS  "WHY PEOPLE ARE COMPLAINING THAT WE AREN'T GETTING BRIDES FOR OUR SONS AND GROOMS FOR OUR DAUGHTERS"  AND THEN WHY ARE OTHERS WHO GOT EVERYTHING  IE (BRIDES , BRIDEGROOM AND GRAND CHILDREN ARE COMPLAINING )? THESE ARE TWO QUESTIONS  WHICH ARE ALWAYS BUZZING IN YOUR MINDS they repeated these questions  and then started to laugh aloud .We both looked at each other with confused look on our face .Fine i said with mild irritation .Looking at our facial expressions they said .
NOW I WILL GIVE YOU THE ANSWER TO YOUR TWO QUESTIONS  SO 'DYAAN SE SUNO TUM DONO ' THEY SAID
THIS IS BECAUSE OF

• INCREASE IN  COMPARISON WITH OTHERS IN WORLD
• SOCIAL MEDIA(people keep on clicking their selfies just for the sake of the world  and only to boost their egos about their son and daughter are great in what ever they do and teach other to be tech-savvy like them ;-)  
• FAMILY LOVE(often parents forget the person who comes in to be part of their family is some body's daughter and somebody 's sister who should be treated like their own daughter  by not just saying but by doing it like wise
• YOUTH LIKE YOU  WHO FALL IN LOVE WITH OTHER COMMUNITIES, CASTE OR RELIGION  WHICH  PARENTS DON'T EXPECT  THEM TO DO AS THEY TRUST THEM  ENTIRELY (if parents dont accept his/her son's choice then  they will go on non-cooperation  movements so  parents have to keep quiet)

so because of these reasons people are not wanting to be entangle themselves into such types of relationship which is in a way sad :-(   as Marriage is  a melody

If you have time both of you you can read the books written by swami tejomayananda to get clear perspective about relationship .

After they said these things realization dawned on us that we are such fools to accept the outer world perception rather than our inner world .

we thanked them for opening our eyes  .Now i think people with traditional thinking are not bad as i thought  they might be Purana but the Best  when it come to relationships
That night i kept on smiling to myself thinking how wrong i felt about  traditional thinkers

Traditional thinker give rise to Modern thinkers .They are both interdependent

Happy Reading

Have  A great WEEKEND

LUV

WRITER